About me

My name is Lorena. I’ve been married to my sweetheart for 21 years. We have a few amazing kiddos and for the most part life is good but I am dealing with my husband’s pornography and lust addiction. It’s a downer and I’d rather not be here. Nuts.

Feel free to contact me (I don’t check this email very often, so it might take me a few days to reply) at iwouldrathernotbehere@gmail.com



  1. Hi Lorena! I really empathize with you. It sounds like we are in a very similar place in our lives. I don’t have a blog, but can really see the healing that could happen for me to share my story!! I always feel like I have to protect my husband. It is at least comforting to know that we are not alone in this journey, in this very individual journey! May Heavenly Father continue to bless and carry you!! Thank you for sharing.


  2. It is December 1 st and I just read your blog for the first time. You speak to me girl. We are even on the same timeline. My D- day was Just after Easter this year. Your post on why I stay had me in tears because it is exactly what I am feeling. I originally found out about my husbands Porn addiction about 11 years ago, but being so naive thought he had taken care if that. Well unbeknownst to me it has always been a part of my marriage. So here I am struggling with all the same feelings you describe. I don’t have a blog, but I journal and let me tell you I know exactly how you feel. Even the part about leaving the kids to go to recovery meetings, or the unromantics we married. Love you Sheri


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